What I detest most is when someone simply accuses me without valid truth to the matter. And to have a so-called blogger "friend" hounding my blogging days and nights with unjust derogatory accusations is simply too much so I am drawing the line today.
My silence all these years does not translate into forgiveness nor does it mean acceptance. It is now the right time for me to speak. I do not have the slightest inkling on what will transpire following this post nor do I care. Tonight, I am simply writing to clear my good name as a friend, blogger, FCC founder, EC dropper, and most importantly me as a person.
Three years ago, something happened in my blogging life that brought tears to my eyes. It was the first time I ever cried for anything blog-related and my tears were mostly from hurt. And betrayal.
I felt used; completely baffled as to why a complete stranger would befriend me one day and betray our friendship the next by trashing my blog at his site. Was it called for? I think not for we were "friends" then. Was it constructive criticism? There was nothing constructive about his post. Was it done out of sheer jealousy at my so-called popularity? I leave that for you to decide.
This blogger took it upon himself to act and behave like a blog police. He started saying hello; asking for tips on how to get more people to visit his blog. And like a gullible fool, I simply shared my experience with him. I was a newbie then and all I did was joined a few blog communities and participated in several cool memes. I also did a lot of blog hopping too, which helped gain me a little attention.
He continued to monitor my every blog move and then one day when I least expected it, he launched an attack on poor unsuspecting me, his so-called friend. He used our friendship to falsely accuse me of things, which he deemed just. Without fully comprehending the full extent of my story or blogging history, he basically implied that my blog sucked and was not updated regularly. He continued to say that I have no merits as a blogger and I do not deserve to be in the blog world; suggesting I pack my bags and move to MySpace.
If that was not enough, he provoked me even more by saying that Wishing on a Falling Star is not a real blog according to Alexa and even displayed my blog statistics for the whole world to see...without my permission. At that time, I was new to the blogosphere and frankly, I wasn't even aware of Alexa and its underlying significance for my blog. All I wanted to do was blog. I was not disturbing anyone in the process; happily minding my own business and yet he went out of his way to stealthily dig up MY STATS and published them at HIS site. And all this coming from a "friend"?
When news first broke out of this incident, I was stunned into silence. I refused to believe one who appeared wonderful initially decided to tarnish my blog with just one post. I cried myself silly that weekend and vowed never to be used this way again. I was determined to stop blogging for I was devastated. My heart was broken and I even went as far as doubting my role as a friend!
Eventually, I got angry. I told myself that he is dead to me and NEVER will I grace his blog again. And since that tearful day, I have NEVER visited his site, I have NEVER replied any of his comments here and lately when he started appearing on EC, I REFUSE to drop at his site. I have my reasons and I dare any one of you to say I'm wrong. It was not me who initiated this whole mess and yet he is twisting things to make it look like I am the bully and he's the victim? Come on!
He claims that I reward linky love and awards to just my friends. SO WHAT? My friends, OLD and NEW are the ones who make this blog what it is today. Thank you to LadyJava, Monica, Lil', Ane, Rizal, HaaziQ, Emila, Anny, Tina, Speedcat, Elai, Lainy, Shemah, Roxy, Jean, LR, Nick, Nessa, Liza, Debbs, Bill, Tekkaus, Foong, ECL, Ayie, David, GG, Mize and so many more who show me love and support throughout my blogging journey. Some of them visit me often, others occasionally. Either way, we are friends and we keep in touch with what goes on in our respective lives via our blogs and other social networks. That's what TRUE FRIENDSHIP is all about, a concept unfamiliar to him apparently.
He claims that I did not give him EC linky love for dropping 31 drops on my perfume blog. SO WHAT? The moment he wrote that nasty post about me three years ago, our friendship ended right there and then! Does he not get that? He is invisible to me so even if he drops EC at MPG till he drops dead, NEVER will I return his drops or give him any linky love. He is not a friend and I don't welcome backstabbers at any of my blogs. Deal with it!
He claims that my contests are dishonest. Let me declare this - From now on, ANY contests held here or at Meow Diaries or at MPG will NOT be OPEN TO HIM. It is a special clause just for him and nobody else in this world. So get that, it is only HIM that I'm avoiding like the plague and NO ONE ELSE. How dare he discourage others from joining my contests just because he is not included in my circle of friends? And that too was brought upon by him and not me!
He claims I have an exclusive Blog Clique. SO WHAT? It's not like I started this so-called clique. Is it my fault that people find my blog interesting and they flock to me and my posts? New and old; all visitors are welcomed here with the exception of HIM. Do not take it out on my other readers if he feels not welcomed here; I am simply playing his game after all!
He claims that I only reply comments from my close friends. Well, if you're a true Mariucan and know me well enough, you would have noticed that I even reply to spam comments sometimes; that is how much I value my commenters. Does he honestly expect me to reply to his comments after the damage he caused? To visit me and PRETEND like nothing is wrong makes him a hypocrite and unlike him ... I am not one! I choose NOT to reply to his comments and only his.
I started the FCC to show appreciation for my first commenters and I can't help it if my winners are usually from the same crowd. They are my loyal Mariucans. They choose to follow me on Twitter, they understand my crazy night owl hours, they take the time to "CHOP" as FC here at all my posts and they choose to get into the spirit of things! Feeling a little left out are we? If that is not pathetic, pray tell what is!
Plus, even if I do not feature him as my First Commenter (which has NEVER been the case btw); I have valid reasons; which stemmed from three years ago and not just recently. Perhaps he thinks otherwise but no, time has not lessened my ill-will towards him.
Despite me treating him as the invisible blogger that he truly is, he continues to have his say; consistently bugging and trashing my blogs whenever he feels like it. And for him to have the audacity to claim sympathy and cry foul is simply laughable!
If nothing else, understand this at least. Ever since he took it upon himself to end our friendship by disrespecting our trust and unnecessarily trashing me and my beloved blog, it is over. As they say, once beaten twice shy. He is no longer my friend so for me to forgive and forget? NEVER!
163 comments:
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Hi Mariuca! :* :* :*
Wow, GP... what a horrible stalker story. I had an unpleasant incident with another blogger when I first started blogging and it made me stop for almost 2 years because the bad attitudes in the blogosphere gave me the creeps. I'm glad GPE didn't cause you to stop blogging because your blogs are my faves. Glad you got it all off your chest at last.
Roxy =-O >:o >:o
Well said GP!!!! if this doesn't set him straight.. he needs to be committed somewhere! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Wow...who is this insane psycho freak? :(
what does he think.. just because it happened three years ago.. now you're supposed to forgive and forget? Boleh Blah Dah!!
GLAM ni... >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Tell us who he or she is and we will teach him or her a lesson. :p
has the audacity to demand linky love? Kamon... wake up from your slumber lah.. muka tak tau malu!
well said Mariuca! yr best post ever for dis one!!!
take that GPE! >:o >:o
Yes! Yes! good to let it out! This guy is too much, maybe he got no story or no idea to write on his blog or otherwise he is just plain jeolous to note that you and LadyJava got one of the top comments worldwide. It will backfire him for having made such a wild accusatiion! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Stupid Stupid Man
balik kampung tanam jagung la u!!
heheh Tekkaus.. yeah.. lets hentam the man.. lol
I agree.. the post to end all post..
He’s a sour grape lah Lil!
Benci tul!
Hugs dearie!!
Mariuca, you know where I stand on this. As I said before, it's one thing to want to get attention(which is why blogs are posted in public because we write to be read). But it's quite another to bash someone repeatedly to get it.
I actually saw this post coming from you after I seen your tweets, and I admire your stance.
What you do with your blog is your own business and right just as much as it is the right of those to go read something else instead. Constructive criticism is fine, but personal attacks as well as false accusations are an entirely different matter.
Also, there's that accountability issue that the person lacks not even recognizing what was wrong with what he did by continuing to come back to your blogs.
Hugs for you my sweet friend! :* :* :*
You know what, this may sound weird, but I enjoy reading this post! Maybe because I share your feelings about how some idiotic, crazy and brainless person would want to trash and criticize your blog and you as a person with no valid reason!
Hopefully after reading this, he will understand. But don't have your hopes too high. Cos some people just refuse to see the big picture and can only see from his own distorted view.
As you know, I have quite similar experience with an anonymous commenter and I don't even know him! He just blasted away using foul language and I was like, what happened? Where did that come from? These people are just plain jealous. They have issues - some personal issues - and they took it out on us! Hmmph!
Anyway, hope you feel relieved letting your heart out on this : )
You tau LadyJava, I went through his blog, dia dok pakai Music Monday even on his latest post 5th of April but dok letak his button to subscribe, apa ni dok teru you pula, pi lah buat Tuesday or Wenesday apa2, kena apa dok tak ada idea dok pi teru orang punya idea, nampak terang2 memang pun sour grape! Biar dia baca ini dok kena translate pi ambil dictonary, hehehehe, kakakaka, kekekeke, nanti backfire balek tu him lah! :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D
tiru..
Last nanti dia akan jadi the laughing stock amongst us! :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D
Last nanti dia akan jadi the laughing-stock! :-D :-D :-D :-D
All my support to you Marzie, and our dearest LadyJava, hugzzzz to you both
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Mmg sour grapes… copy cat.. semua cukup Lil!!
So... GPE has nothing to say for himself? :( >:o >:o =-O
I doubt he dares comment here Roxy..
He probably would retaliate with a nasty post for sure.. just like he did mine!
LJ, I don't know who this hideous GPE is, so I haven't seen his nasty posts (and don't want to give him any traffic)... all I can say is I doubt that I've ever visited his creepy blog....I guess he's one of those unwelcome spammers who don't participate properly in your awesome Music Monday meme. >:o >:o >:o
And I doubt you want to know him as well Roxy.. and of course.. no traffic for him .. and let me tell you this.. I don’t want him participating in my meme either.. I’ll just delete the link for sure!
Btw.. I send you pte message on twitter
okeh. my internet connection really suck big time today. after reloading this page for 7 times, then only the comment section can be loaded. Duh.
Hi Marzie, I really sorry to hear about all these things that had happen to you. Honestly, I am not sure how to react if any of it did happen to me. As I mentioned back then, I had one EC dropper that did not like my blog's title. She asked me to stop dropping on her blog. So I did, and move on to others instead. I only felt offended when she said bad things to me without even reading my blog posts and just by judging its title. Shame.
Anyway, mine was just a small hiccups compared to yours. I can only advise you the one thing I did back then; just try to ignore that person completely. He is not there, invisible as his words are repugnant to you. May that person be relieved from all his enviousness
May I know who's the person is?
Hugs Marzie. See you tomorrow :*
Very well said Marzie you let him have it with both barrels and he deserves everything he gets. People like that just make me so aggravated >:o >:o. Who does he think he is. This is your site and can do anything you dam well please here. Great job Marzie Great job.
Aww.. You poor thing..
Don't waste your tears over such people.
If I were you, I would have slam it back at him right there and then..
But anyway, ignorance is the best treatment.
Don't bother la Marzie. He's just jealous of your popularity and probably is pissed that he can't achieve what you've achieved. He's just a laughable character la ... Keep up your good work :D
Big hugs to you Marzie :* :* :* :* :*
Give us, your loyal frens n fans a favor ok... don't ever blog about this person anymore no matter how much he irks you bcos he just wants ur attention and by getting you mad he has succeeded.
Ignore the bugger. Adakah patut mo komplen not getting link love?? Aduiii... dia teda life la. Kesian.... :-P :-P :-P :-P
and thanks for the mention :-D :-D :-D
that's too harsh for him to fo such an idiot thing to you Mariuca.. maybe he's just too jealous about the success of your blog in a way that he'll do everything to make you down..
i definite agree that your taking two steps forward about this issue.... Just ignore him and let your blog shine .... beside he cannot do anything knowing that you have lots of friends who's always there to support you and always on your side
Just like in reality, there's always betrayals, however, th good thing about it is that in every betrayal, we learned right! so cheer up! and live life to the fullest
have a great day and happy blogging
Hola GP! Don't let that guy get to you...if he does then he is getting exactly what he wants...just ignore the lowlife like he doesn't exist. He gets his kicks from seeing you react so don't give him that pleasure. Cheers GP!!
Jom selamatkan harimau!~ ^_^
Whoever this guy is, hope he gets your message now, though he should have learned it earlier. No more tears for him Marzie, more people love you here :* :*
Good stand to take!
Stay cheerful as you are.. and let yourself shine together with your blog.
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Very good sweetie.
Hopefully he gets it now.
Cheer up and don't be angry now. We all love you. :*
More hugs to you. :)
A Simple Life
Betrayal is the thing I hate the most. I loathe backstabbers.
You have been a gentle and a sweet blogger and creating a brave post like this is something. I understand how you feel.
Before I had a bad experience days prior to launching my new domain and design. I received the most rude and judgmental comment ever for the first time from an anonymous guy whom I think is not a blogger. I got so affected but I thought to myself, he's not worth it. If he is seeking for popularity, I am not going to give in to what he wanted. I let it pass and time made me feel better.
I believe that there is always a way for us to forgive. It just needs time to heal everything. I hope that person would change his attitude.
Take care Mariuca and feel good about yourself because you are a gifted writer! :-D
i hate big-fat liars, backstabbers and hypocrites. :(
the best thing to do is totally ignore him. it's something not worth getting upset about.
hope you'll feel much better now. you've many loving friends who are being supportive of you all the way, so cheer up Marzie!
Sabar!
You devoted a whole post to him!?
In real life or virtual, we have our fair share of black sheep.
You and LJ are good blogging friends who selflessly share and also help me whenever I have problems with blogging. You don't need too many friends when you already have good buddies. Count your blessings.
Thanks for your concern when I went for surgery recently and dropping whenever you could despite my lack of activity bloghopping these days. Thanks for being my friend. *hugs*
GP needs to get it out of her system ECL.. as I did J
This one is the blackest of them all!!
Aww.. you’re so sweet ECL
You’re our blogging buddy too!!
Hugs!
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just dropping here again... have a great day mariuca!!
Marzie!! ish ishhhh.. i missed all the drama yesterday!! i was offline the whole day.. and i found out through debbs this morning.. then skali tgk his post, he dah edit! but debbs sent me the email of the original post and it was just so incredulous to me.
Here he is again, just trying to get to you. Maybe because that's the only way to get traffic to his blog. It's so sad, i almost laughed.
And also to bring LJ into it?? just so uncalled for.
Anyways, you've written what you've needed to say and I applaud you for it.. so well written and exact to the point. I hope we can finally move past this and close this chapter on him forever. No more GPE.. and delete him into oblivion!! Just don't come back 3 years later and start stirring things up again!!
Hi dear,
I commend you on your bravery, honesty and convinction in writing this post. It moved me in many ways.
Be cool honey and amazing writing too!
B.
p.s. I love you Mariuca! :*
Oh! sorry to learn of your frustrations and anger at such a low down character! cheer up marzie we are your good frens and will stand by and back you up! Ignore people like that and thats the way to go!
marzie!!
oh my, so rude! well said.. not worth your friendship being thrashed like that
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This is rather sad, Sweetie! I just learned of how your heart was broken and tattered some years ago by reading this post.
And I hear you! Certainly no person would want to be betrayed. Betrayal of trust is something that's unforgivable. We are only humans and we feel the hurt. We feel the pain.
In this situation, I am in awe and admiration for your strength, grace and composure. As I have mentioned in my comment at LJs post, keeping these traits when one is in distress is laudable.
Obviously, he hasn't heard of the Mariucan example What a pity!
Anyways, he's not worth your tears anymore, Sweetie. You are doing great and I salute you for the high regard you put on friendship. It's something more important tha STATS, POPULARITY, and etc. that he is so concerned of.
Don't be disheartened. You are doing great yourself without him. Keep up and good job! We are all behind you!
Hugggsss! :) :) :) :)
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Hi LJ FC2! :-D :-D
And helllloooo Foxy Roxy, FC3! 8-) 8-)
Thanks so much for chopping my GALM post ladies, group hug! :-D :-D :-D
Stevie G! :* :* :* :* :* :*
Thanks love, your words mean the world to me and I love you too, big hugs for my B! :* :* :* :* :* :* :* :*
>:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o me too!
Thank you Monica! I put my heart and soul into this post, cause feeling da moment if ya know what I mean, thanks! :* :* :* :*
LOL! Ingat dia terasa ke tak? Or just plain dense? ..... >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW*
And tanam petai too while he's at it, cis GPE! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks BFF, love ya! Harap2 lepas ni takde lagi perkara remeh-temeh mengganggu kita, blah! :* :* :* :* >:o >:o >:o
LOL LJ, u are correct, sebab dia ni macam tak betul sikit kan? Sekali cakap tak paham, tiga empat kali cakap pun still tak paham.. kesian sungguh! :-P :-P :-P :-P
Like I said in my post, time has not changed the way I feel about him, thanks to him consistently bugging me even after the incident three years ago, what's up with that? Peminat I habis-habisan, boleh blah! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
>:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o Thanks for being GALM for me sweetie and likewise, I too am GALM for you.... :-E :-E :-E
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Exactly, berani dia demand linky love, ingat bapak dia bayar untuk my blog ke apa? Boleh jalan! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Back at cha dearie, thanks so much for being my true friend during this trying time, love ya! :* :* :* :*
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Hey Roxy, thanks so much for coming to my aid and support here. And I'm so glad to have you as my true Mariucan and friend, love ya for loving my blogs and love BE for bringing us together, hugs! :* :* :*
I'm happy u didn't quit as well sweetie, imagine how boring it would be without Bree cheering me on when I'm online! More hugs! :-D :-D :-D :-D
He he memang insane psycho freak!!! Thanks Tekkaus! :* :* :*
I refuse to stoop to his level and publish his stupid name here, I don want anything to do with insane people like him! Anyway, I sent u email ha ha! :* :* :*
Cis bedebah punya GPE! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks Lil! I had to meluahkan perasaan cause he's been pushing me to since Day 1... nah ambik kau! And I think so too... green eyed Monster we have here! Jgn la jelesi.. berusaha la sendiri kalau nak popular! >:o >:o >:o >:o
You mean he copied LJ's MM button and is using it as his subscribe button? OMG, how pathetic can one get? No originality, no creativity! Thanks for letting us know sweetie, mmg saja cari pasal kan? >:o >:o >:o >:o
Jgn pakai word cat kat dia LJ, cat is too cute for the fella! >:o >:o >:o
Tu la, I dah gelak puas-puas kat LJL, u dah ke belum Lil? Cepat gi gelakkan depa kat sana pulak! :-P :-P :-P :-P
tak malu tiru org! >:o >:o
Thanks so much David and you are a smart guy... ppl should definitely listen to what u have to say here. You say it as it is and in this case, you could not have said it better. I salute you for your friendship and great blogging skills, these are the traits it take to become a true blogger and sad to say, none of those he fully understands. It's almost pathetic to see one tries so hard to demean others and bring them down through negativity and hatred, which are uncalled for to begin with. >:o >:o >:o
Thanks so much for being a buddy to me and I'm glad u got my back, hugs! :* :* :* :*
LOL not weird at all Foong... just like how I enjoyed reading ur response to ur "fren"... that is what baffles me too.. I never gave him any reason to trash and stalk me, he did it all on his own....relentlessly... enuff! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Shamelessly, I saw his stupid avatar on my TR widget yesterday Foong... I like what u said abt that distorted view, oh so true.. and oh so pathetic! >:o >:o :-P :-P :-P
I know!!! It's like when it first happened, ur just stunned into silence, cause tak paham why suddenly out of the blue kena attack for no reason right? Kamon..... btw is ur "stalker" still leaving u nasty comments at ur blog? *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* >:o >:o
More than anything, I just had to have my say after 3 years of keeping silent.... :-E :-E :-E :-E
Thanks so much for the hugs Lil, u are a true friend, love ya! :* :* :*
So cute u getting all riled up for me Roxy, hugs!! :* :* :* :*
I shan't bother if he retaliates but if he accuses me for no reason again, I will report him to EC for slander. Enuff!!!! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
You got mail Blue! ;) ;) ;) ;)
He looks creepy, he behaves creepy and I do not need a stalker cum psycho bugging my sanity! Good that did u did not give him any traffic Roxy! :* :* :* :*
LOL! Definitely LJ, some more stole ur MM badge dearie!!!! >:o >:o >:o >:o
HaaziQ! Thank you very much for tying ur best to leave a comment here and show me love despite your bad connection, I terharu, thanks! :* :* :*
Your case tu sounds like a fussy blogger, easily offended.. and I remember u telling me this too last time... takpe.. some ppl love us, some ppl hate us. It's just unfortunate that we had to experience the negative side of blogging... :'( :'( :'(
Imagine I duduk diam 3 tahun tak bersuara but he continued to bug and more recently, started trashing me again.. for no reason.. did I even disturb him in the first place? Did I even drop at his site or comment there? No contact whatsoever and yet he has the gall to do this again and again.. cukup! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thank you HaaziQ! You're a wonderful friend too and hey, congrats on the PR4!! :* :* :* :*
Hello Bill! Thanks a mill Virgo Buddy, love ur comment for me here too! He thinks he is the blog cop Bill, and he does it in the most negative insulting way..monitors ur blog, then the moment HE feels ur in the wrong, he starts bashing without valid reasons and causes trouble in the blog world. I don't know about you but I don't need anybody like that within my blog community! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks for ur love and support mi amigo, Virgo hugs! :* :* :* :*
Hey sweetie! Dat's why, I still didn't say anything from the first time it happened but he continued bugging me so I had to speak.. I'm a little late but I am finally speaking out loud! >:o >:o :* :* :*
Hi Nick! Thanks so much for ur kind words here and yes, I don care if ppl think I'm perasan ke apa but it is so obvious that he is jealous of me, cause from last time until now still "wan to be my friend" konon...I ain't buying!!! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks for being a great friend too Nick, since our "Alexa days" ha ha! :* :* :* :*
Thank you Nessa! You know kalau boleh, mmg I nak avoid writing dis post, I am not a trouble-maker.. but I feel I owe it to my other readers to tell them what the freak is actually going on.. I mean the actual truth. Let them hear it from me, 3 tahun I buat tak tahu, 3 tahun dia mengganggu dan mengganggu I sampai tempias kat LJ now..enuff is enuff! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Some more he never explained at his post WHY I tak kasi linky love, let ppl know the truth now as to why I have been avoiding him like the plague. He asked for it, here I am!!! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Sure la have to mensi, ur my buddy since day one, love ya sweetie and thanks so much for the hugs! :* :* :* :*
I think u are right BD, he is just jealous and it's been three years, he can't get over the fact that WOAFS is indeed a real blog! >:o >:o >:o >:o
I've been doing that since day one BD, avoid and avoid but he keeps on coming back here, and I have no idea what is it that he wants from me!!!! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks for ur support BD, u are a good friend and I am glad to see u here in my comment box today! Happy blogging to you too and thanks again! :* :* :* :*
ALAKAZAM GK! How dare he bug GP here.. again and again despite me minding my own business! Thanks so much for cominover to show me love, Hugs for u GK and I sent u an email at yahoo! :* :* :* :*
Hi EM, thanks sweetie!! I doubt he will get it and I'm seriously beginning to think he is just dense... this is not the first time he is causing trouble for me and now for my friends... thanks dear, love ya! :* :* :* :*
I am wishing on a falling star Zul, let's hope for brighter things ahead and thank you very much for ur kind comment here, have a great day! :* :* :*
Yay Liza is here too! :* :* :*
I hope so too, we'll see... *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW*
I love you too Liza, thanks for being a wonderful friend to me, u rock! :* :* :*
Yay more hugs for me, thanks Liza! :* :* :*
Hi June, firstly thank you very much for ur kind comment here. Honestly, it took me this long before I finally told all, cause I have no other choice. I never did have closure when the incident happened three years back and now is a good time as any to get my closure. He has been having his say for years, and though I've kept my distance, it was not enough for him and he needed more of me to bash relentlessly and today I am finally saying something. >:o >:o >:o >:o
I let it go for three years and tried not to let it affect me but it is hard to do so when he continues to come back for more, stirring trouble each time he decides to blast his anger at me for no reason. I am a very forgiving person and I can forgive almost anything but this has been going on for too long and he never stops. I just don't have it in me to forgive and forget anymore. Just wanna move on and leave this terrible tale behind for good. :'( :'( :'( :'(
Thanks again for ur inspiring words here. I am honoured you took the time to read my post and leaving ur thoughts here, thanks so much! :* :* :* :*
Got ur message LJ, don't know him, don't wanna know him... no traffic from Roxy. DON'T FEED THE TROLL!! LOL =-O :*
Ha ha I too hate big fat liars, backstabbers and hypocrites, thanks LR!! Ur comment made me LOL! :* :* :*
I'm trying here LR.. for so many years I tried but he can't seem to get enuff of Mariuca! And is still visiting me... >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
I do feel better after writing this post cause it was a loooooong time coming LR. Thanks so much for ur friendship, u are such a great buddy, love ya! :* :* :* :*
ECL! Dah sabar 3 tahun! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
I hate black-hearted people LJ! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks ECL, u are a good buddy to me too and I'm glad to see u here in my comment box. Let's show my stalker what true friendship and support is all about, hugs ECL! :* :* :* :*
No worries ECL, definitely as a friend I was concerned.. esp since B oso had his surgery this year and I know how much that sucks.. I do hope ur getting stronger by the day sweetie and will be back to perfect health soon, take care! And more hugs! :* :* :* :*
Thanks for dropping by again BD! Yay! 8-) 8-) 8-)
Shemah!!!! I'm so glad to see u here, thanks a mill sweetie. Your words here are enough to give me the strength and support to move on and hopefully never have to go through this nonsense again! >:o >:o >:o >:o
Over and over again he tries to get to me Shemah, u know that.. since day one.. he never stops harassing me and pretending to be a friend when we all know real friends never do this to another friend! Exactly Shemah, it's so pathetic that it's laughable... kesian sungguh org tak berpelajaran macam ni..tsk tsk tsk.... :-P :-P :-P
Thanks again sweetie, I am hoping for a closure with this post and if he still doesn't get it and continues coming over here, he is the one who needs to get checked asap. I repeat, I DO NOT WANT TO SEE HIS STUPID AVATAR HERE anymore! Get the hell out of my blog and stay there!!! Sure la GALM dat day Shemah! Now okay edi, big hugs!! :* :* :* :* :*
Bokjae!!! Thanks Bokjae, for ur support, u are a wonderful friend, since day one and thanks for keeping our friendship alive all these years. I appreciate having true friends like you and I will do my best to forget this nasty episode.. again.. thanks Bokjae, regards to Rocky too! :* :* :* :* :*
Ayie! :* :* :*
This goes beyond rude Ayie, it's downright nasty and just despicable! >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o
Thanks Ayie, I really needed the hugs, love ya! :* :* :* :*
>:o >:o >:o >:o >:o >:o Don't feed the fugly troll!!!!!! Hola Roxy!! :* :* :* :*
Hi Lainy, thank you very very much for ur wise kind words here. Your comment is one of my favourites here, so nicely put in the simplest of ways, as how only u can say it sweetie. :* :* :* :*
Frankly, I wanted to avoid writing this post Lainy.. I tried not to simply because I didn't want to get all riled up for someone so pathetic and cruel, totally someone I would NOT befriend both online or offline. But when one continues to push and bug u constantly with unfair false remarks, I needed to have my say.. for the sake of my sanity and for the sake of my other readers who have been nothing but loyal and supportive of my blog. I owe it to them at least to set things straight and make things okay here once again. :'( :'( :'(
Thank you for being a terrific friend and for all ur love and support for my blogs. I admire u as a blogger and writer and to have u leave me this very strong meaningful message means a whole lot to me. I got all teary reading your comment and I love you for taking ur stand with me. Big hugs for u Lainy, u are my forever friend! :* :* :* :* :* :* :* :*
Hey Marzie, it's me Ane stupid itouch won't let me sign in toy JS account.. Anyhoo take that stupid bald and old GPE! :D
Yay to your B for leaving that meaningful post... :)
I will comment more when I get home stupid itouch is lowbat! >:o
Yes GP. Sometimes we need to speak our mind bluntly to set things straight once and for all. You did well in writing this post. You poured out your heart's content in every word. You're one of the sincerest bloggers I know.Don't let this event crush your blogging spirit :-)
That one is a nasty creature. I did a post for him one time coz he asked me to do it. I didn't know what transpired between you and him then. Had I known about it, I will surely bash him at my blog instead, grrrrrr!
What he did is clear defamation, character assassination and obviously he is an irresponsible blogger. Blog readers are not familiar or are not fully aware about what transpired. Blog readers hardly have the time to research what prompted such a kind of reaction from him. They read, imbibe at face value and move on. But names, events and the rant possibly could remain mentally vivid which could cause so much damage to the victim, and in this case, the victim is YOU.
So you did the right thing, Sweetie, by clearing up your name.
Hugssss! :) :) :) :)
Thanks for the kind and generous words about me, Sweetie! :-) :-) :-) :* :* :* :* :* :* :* :*
hi Mariuca... just here again... oh by the way i just went to the other site of yours...
Thanks Lainy, love ya! I am sorry to hear u wrote a post for him, I did not know that. He is still visiting me and writing whatever he wants about me, let him be.. it is so pathetic to see someone "LIKING" me dis much...not flattering, just a big turn-off! :-P :-P :-P :-P :-P :-P :-P
I meant every word sweetie, you're one of my fave bloggers but hey, u already know that! Big hugs! :* :* :* :* :*
LOL ANe! I saw him leaving a message for u in ur chat box... grrrrrr....... thanks sweetie! :* :* :* :*
Love my B for leaving me dat meaningful message and thanks for noticing Ane, hugs! :* :* :*
Sure sweetie, thanks again! How is ur itouch comng along? *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW*
Yay thanks for visiting my other site BD, have a good one! :* :* :*
*hugs* dear! just be strong and ignore him if you can :* :* :* :*
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Don’t feed the Troll Roxy!!!
Troll tak paham bahasa, get the freak away troll!!
makes me curious on who that bloger is... ;)
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