Sunday, March 30, 2008

Our Love Story

When I was seventeen, my thoughts on love were based on naïve perceptions that were limited to my knowledge from friends, books and movies. I envisioned my Prince Charming with exaggerated perfection and found certain shallow traits like how good-looking he was, to be a must in my dream guy.

As I grew older and gained a deeper understanding of relationships, I decided to trust my heart. So when I met BF 1, I held on to my instincts and gave him my heart. It was a long distance relationship and when it eventually fizzled out, that first heartbreak was so bad it kept love at bay for quite a while... until BF 2 came along.

BF 2 proved to be another heart breaker! My older sister, who was then dating his best friend, introduced us and though we didn’t click immediately, I eventually fell head over heels in love with his gentle ways, kindness and sincerity. We were deliriously happy for a while until he reluctantly admitted to having insecurities about our relationship and me. And so I said good-bye; I was twenty then and very unforgiving. It also didn’t help much when I discovered that he had gone back to his ex, merely days after we broke up! He really got me wondering about love's true definition and I decided that I have yet to find my perfect guy.

After him, I lost all zest for life and love. Hopes of recovering in style went out the window. I went out of my way to be a serial dater and in my reckless attempt to forget my pain and rejection, I ended up with BF 3 after a girls’ night out in a club. Seven years older than me, his maturity was most becoming and we hit it off almost instantly. Apparently on a rebound however, I was hardly surprised when we separated after only four weeks.


It was time to rethink my whole outlook on love. It was also time for me to further my studies and so I went abroad, where I met BF 4. We remained an item until graduation. I was 23 then with a newly acquired degree in hand. I was eager to see what the world had to offer and any committed relationship I was thinking of having had to take a backseat to my need for success. We agreed to go our separate ways but remained friends for a while, before eventually drifting apart.

BF 5 took me on an exciting roller coaster ride. A romantic at heart, he was constantly expressing his love and devotion with flowers, love letters and dreamy poetry. The magic lasted a year before he furthered his studies abroad. Despite our best efforts to maintain a long distance love affair, it ended on a bad note after only a year.

By then, I was devastated and felt that my life was in total disarray. I nursed my wounded heart by going out each night, despising every loving couple I saw on the street, cursing Valentine’s Day and vowing to remain single for the rest of my life. I lost all faith in love and I thought there would never be sunshine after the rain. Pessimism was at its heights!

One fine day, after two long years of being single, I decided to accept Zeff’s invitation for coffee. Apparently, BF 2 had just returned from UK after 3 years there and Zeff, who's our mutual friend, had planned a small reunion for BF 2 and some of his friends, yours truly included. I hesitated briefly before deciding to join them. Six years had already passed since BF 2 and I last locked eyes. Besides, I was completely over him so there were absolutely no hard feelings left. Being nervous about a coffee session with an old "friend" was almost laughable, I thought!


With full confidence, I hopped into Zeff's car, somewhat excited to meet an old flame after 6 years. Zeff told me then, that we had to make a quick stop to fetch BF 2 since he was staying in the neighborhood too. This piece of news totally caught me off guard and I immediately panicked. My heart was beating furiously but for the life of me, I couldn't comprehend why!

When BF 2 got into the car, I couldn’t bring myself to look him in the eye! I continued averting his eyes when we sat down at Starbucks; all the while steering clear from any conversation about our past. It took a while, but once the initial awkwardness disappeared, I found myself warming up to his boyish charm and the familiarity of being with him and his friends again. We ended up having the most wonderful conversation that afternoon. By the time we finished our coffee session and Zeff had dropped me off at my place, I was left with mixed emotions and wore a silly smile to sleep!

The next day I awoke with an entirely different attitude towards life. The whole world seemed brighter and I was practically walking on air. Love didn't seem so bad after all! For the first time in years, I finally felt at ease. I felt that I had just come home to something or someone special. Though I didn’t know it then, that day was the beginning of a wonderful love story for me.

He didn't call for the next two days and I found myself feeling restless; wishing and willing the phone to ring. After four tormenting days, the much awaited call finally arrived and we ended up having coffee again, just the two of us this time! Without skipping a beat, as though no evil thoughts had ever transpired between us, we talked endlessly about everything that had happened in our respective lives since we said good-bye six years back.


And before I knew it, we were dating again! Though we could not fully grasp what was happening, we allowed love and our emotions to take its natural course. Several weeks later, one fateful night found us completely lost for words.
I was thanking him for a wonderful time and while saying our good-byes, we suddenly stopped and found ourselves gazing into each other’s eyes, my hands in his. The silence was deafening as we both realized that we were falling in love for the second time, after years of separation! As intense as that moment was, it was equally amazing and totally unforgettable. Immediately after that, everything started falling into place and I knew in my heart that he was the one ... the missing piece of my jigsaw puzzle, the one that I've been searching for all these years.

I guess it's true what they say, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be." I do believe that we were destined to end up together for how else can you explain two hearts reuniting in love after 6 long years of being apart? Love definitely has a way of finding its way to your heart. In my case, it crept up on me twice. I was foolish enough to let it walk out the door the first time, so this time around ... I’m playing for keeps. Happy Anniversary to my darling B! :)



Happy anniversary to my BF 2, who is now my dear hubby B and my best friend! Thank you for being the wonderful person that you are. I love you for your support, your warmth and tenderness and most of all for believing in me and loving me the way I am. It has been a wonderful 6 years and despite life's trials and tribulations; I have loved every minute of being with you and wouldn’t have it any other way. With you, it's always one magical adventure!

Love always,

152 comments:

LadyJava April 02, 2008 2:39 AM

Awww what a sweet sweet story.. i was grining as I read the last few paragraph and how true you say abt letting love go and it coming back to you again..

Yes, marriage is full of trials and tribulation but that's what make it wonderful and all so worthit..

Happy Anniversary again to you and B dearie... I hope you find happiness always and till death do you part, InsyAllah! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:03 AM

Awww thanks LJ! I was never a believer of that saying until it happened to me he he... Thanks for ur many wishes for us, over at ur blog and here too. You made us feel xtra special on that day! :)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 3:19 AM

It was my pleasure to be able to celebrate your special day GP!..it feels good to be able to make other feel good kan??

On the saying kan.. I've always been a believer as it has happened to me as well.. but that's a different story altogether...lolzz..yg penting redha and all will be fine :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:24 AM

Yes, just like being Santa Claus kan? He he!

Maybe ul share ur "Story" at LLP one day, since that blog is more of a personal nature. How?

PS. Eh, sorry woman, belum ada takers for BB!

LadyJava April 02, 2008 3:26 AM

Perhaps one day...and yes if I decide to tell all.. it will be at LLP...

eh yelah i see it there.. hmm takutlah nak go against you....mesti kalah... lolzz!!!

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:30 AM

Ala LJ, you're the one who has won several times mah, I kalah remember?! He he..anyway, I just want to feel the joy of winning la, for once! ;)

Can't wait for LJ to tell all! :)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 3:33 AM

Eh I decided to battle you but then someone dah ambik dah..heheh.. but I voted already!!! Good Luck sweetie!!

eh once you start winning kan.. you get ranked tau.. I cant wait to have our thumbnail refreshed kan... so ugly lah our avatar at BE!

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:39 AM

Thanks LJ, I'm up against a new BE friend of mine he he...

What do u mean we get ranked? As in how many wins and losses? Oh I've given up on my BE thumbnail, it's been MONTHS now! Some more MPG still no news. ;)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 3:46 AM

if you go to bb page, you'll see on the right hand side, a rank of some sort.. i'm not sure if you see it only after your first win though... i hope you win this time! Good luck ya...:)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:50 AM

LJ! I see it, I'm ranked 2,222 it seems...sounds bad huh? How abt you and what does this number mean? Out of how many blogs? Sorry la so many questions!! ;)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 3:54 AM

heheh.. I'm ranked at #1431.. i have no idea out of how many blogs but I think perhaps out of the number of blogs that have battle it out kot..anyway.. the rank get better each time you win in BB

Mariuca April 02, 2008 3:59 AM

Wah wah syabas LJ he he!! This BE gets more exciting by the day. Now, I really hope I'll win! :)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 4:03 AM

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you ya...;)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 4:09 AM

And Aggie's paws too! Better still all 6 kitties! ;)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 4:12 AM

Oh yeah... all six kitties..let's see one kitty has four paws.. so that makes.. 24paws...lol.. how to lose??? heheh

Mariuca April 02, 2008 4:16 AM

Ha ha ha I love the way you think LJ! I need all the kitty luck right now, thanks! :)

Erin April 02, 2008 6:03 AM

This was so sweet! Happy anniversary. I love reading people's love stories!

Came here via BOTB -- voted for you!

Mariuca April 02, 2008 6:09 AM

Hola Erin, thanks so much for your lovely words and for voting for me too! It's always nice to meet a new BE friend! :)

phatelara April 02, 2008 9:26 AM

Hi Marzie,

Happy anniversary to you and your darling B. Hehe may happiness and health (and wealth? lol) be with both of you always. =)

-Debbie

Emila Yusof April 02, 2008 10:46 AM

Marzie! This is the bestest ever!! Terharu membacanya!

Happy Anniversary to you and B!

With lotsa love,
Emila & Yassin!
Muahhhsss!

Baby Mits April 02, 2008 12:00 PM

what a sweet story! Happy Anniversary to the both of you!

Jean Chia April 02, 2008 12:01 PM

awwww.. i felt like reading a romantic love novel! it's truly magical both of you ended up together again after 6 yrs. And boy! u does have a lot of BF! haha..

Happy Anniversary to you & B! May both of you continue to love, respect, support & understand each others! *HUGZ*

p/s: what's BOTB? i want to vote too! :)

Farah Deen April 02, 2008 12:45 PM

ohhhhh so sweet and wow! so many boyfriends!!!!!!! siap ada label BF1, BF2 and so on lagi! :)

Anyway, I too believe in destiny, when you are destined to be together, no matter what happens in between, you'll still be together. You and your B look so sweet and perfect together. And Happy Anniversary to both of you! :) Reminiscing love story is wonderful kan GP?

Raghav April 02, 2008 1:01 PM

Hi Dear,
What a wonderful story but with a happy ending......it might have been infactuation....not love....any ways you found your right partner after 5 attempts.......
i too have under gone similar pain but not yet found the suitable one till now.....
I'm really very happy for you dear!

All the very best....if it was not for Mr.Zeff you would have never met Mr.B again & married him!

you have to be grateful for life long to mr.zeff for arranging the meet.

Happy Wedding Anniversary Sweet Heart!
Do well......
Regards & Best Wishes.

Raghav April 02, 2008 1:02 PM

When are you arranging for the Party!
will join you folks
;)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 1:45 PM

Hi Debbie! Thanks so much cutie! We'd love to have more happiness, health and of coz wealth he he! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 1:48 PM

Yay, thanks for reading Emila, terharu ye? Yassin pun wish Aunty Marzie ye, comelnye dia he he he...

I was late in posting this, so quickly got it out yesterday night only! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 1:49 PM

Hi Baby Mits, great to see u here and thanks so much for wishing us! :)

Hey, I still can't visit your blog, it says access disabled! :(

Mariuca April 02, 2008 1:53 PM

Yay, thank you Jean! We love it when our friends refer to us as the "magical couple". I think nobody expected us to get back together so it was a surprise, although a very pleasant one in the end he he! :)

BOTB is Battle of the Blog from Blog Explosion! I tried la battling yesterday and I won woo hoo!!! But I lost the first time la he he... can't wait for u to get accepted by BE woman! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 1:57 PM

LOL Farah!! Tak kan wan to put their real names here he he... and this one also I censored out some BFs ha ha ha...the insignificant ones la, wanted to keep the story short! ;)

Thanks for ur lovely wish dear, I do believe in destiny, especially after this unexpected rekindling. We both never expected to get back together but here we are today, happily married with 3 cute kitties he he he! :)

Nick Phillips April 02, 2008 1:59 PM

5 boyfriends? Man, that's a lot ... LOL!

That sure sounded like something you'd see on TV. I could imagine you shy-shy and not looking at (B)F2 when you guys met again ... hahaha ...

Here's wishing you and B a very happy anniversary and may there be loads more where that came from ... :D

Mariuca April 02, 2008 2:04 PM

Hola Raghav!! Thanks so much dear, and of course we both thanked Zeff profusely when we eventually got together again. In fact, he was supposed to be B's best man for the wedding but he was in Australia then, but of course we sent him pics! :)e

How abt you Raghav? When are u gonna find ur spcial someone huh? He he ;)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 2:07 PM

Ala 5 only Nick ...I bet u also had many gfs back then he he he... Oh that first meeting was so embarrassing! I didn't think I'd feel that nervous meeting him again after all those years, but there I was like a silly school girl! Nasib baik end up together lolz... thanks for wishing us! :)

Faizal April 02, 2008 6:53 PM

wah.. so lovely, lovely love story - the real one. Happy Anniversary.

Experience makes love sweeter. :)

Fida Abbott April 02, 2008 7:08 PM

Congratulations for both of you. I am so happy for you, guys.

Regards from PA

Raghav April 02, 2008 7:35 PM

i don't know when & where??????
why don't u help me in this regard marzie????????
find some good malay gal & i'll get married!
hahaha!

god only knows!
Masha Allah!

MakeTraffic April 02, 2008 7:56 PM

Hi Marzie, that is a beautiful love story. Thanks for sharing. Happy anniversary! I love happy ending!

Thanks for the visit in a rocket! I apologise for not blogging and visiting lately. I have been spending much of my free time recently with my son.
Cheers!

Mariuca April 02, 2008 7:58 PM

Awww thanks for reading Faizal. I wonder if you have your own love story to share with us lol.. :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 7:59 PM

Thank you Fida! It's great to receive greetings all the way from PA! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 8:03 PM

Ha ha ha...Raghav!! You're beginning to sound like one of my guy friends...he is forever asking me to set him up with my single girlfriends, which I am running out of already!

Stay cool Raghav, be yourself and the right girl will come along! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 8:04 PM

Thanks so much MT! I love happy endings too he he... Hey, I've been busy as well...but at FB la lolz... have fun with ur son! :)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 10:37 PM

I'm here on the rocket... jom!!!

Adrian April 02, 2008 10:40 PM

GP!! Nice to read the story again! :) It's like as if you guys were meant to be together!!

Happy Anniversay to you both!! :).

Ellie's says hi too!! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 10:59 PM

LJ! I'm abt to watch Boldie now, come and get me after midnite! You know that's when the real party starts! :)

Mariuca April 02, 2008 11:02 PM

Thanks GK, we do believe that we're meant to be together lol! Love is grand ain't it? :)

Oh say hello to Ellie too and give her a Phoebe hug! :)

LadyJava April 02, 2008 11:03 PM

Ok GP!! Yeah am dl 1st april.. will watch right after I finish.. see you after midnight....lolzz!!

Mariuca April 02, 2008 11:12 PM

LJ, today's B&B is running very fast, I was done DL in less than an hour! I have 2 more episodes to watch and Lost as well! See u later alligator! :)

Bobby April 03, 2008 12:27 AM

You are very, very lucky Marzie. I wish you & B lifelong happiness:)

Raghav April 03, 2008 1:44 AM

just joking ya..... i case i get a malay gal...i will be the luckiest as i can be with you & meet you every now & then in malaysia!

ratu syura April 03, 2008 2:11 AM

Aaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwww!!! Sweeeeettnyeeerrr!!!! Okay, I'm a total sucker for all these fairytale happy endings! *sniff*sniff*

Happy Anniversary you two lovebirds!!

Btw, I tagged you.. Hope you're up for it..
http://ratusyura.com/2008/04/03/tag-of-35-questions/

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:47 AM

Thanks so much Bobby! I hope you'll find your soul mate really soon too! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:49 AM

LOL Raghav, that's very sweet of you but if you do end up with a Malay gal and move here, I'm sure you'd be spending all your free time with her instead of hanging out with me he he! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:52 AM

Ha ha ha, thanks Syura! I'm so glad I got my happy ending, hopefully you'll have yours with ur cutie BF lol!

Alamak tag of 35 questions? He he, thanks dear, will def check it out! :)

Jacques Pierre April 03, 2008 9:39 AM

Hi Marzie. That's the best love story I heard. If it were to be made into a movie, it'll be the 2nd best after Love Story ;)

I'm glad u found yr destiny & true love after all those yrs.

Happy Anniversary to you & B. Here's a toast to 'Magical Couple' ... May Love & Happiness takes Genie Princess & Her Prince Charming to endless 'magical carpet ride' :)

Song dedication ... you're both made for each other -> http://djnazty.imeem.com/music/iy_4GRRW/brandi_carlile_the_story/

-Naz-

J@n!ce April 03, 2008 11:01 AM

Marzie, this is a magically sweet post of your past love. So B is your BF2. You are right about the verse about what's yours will be yours when he eventually returned. Cheers to a happy marriage & anniversary to both of you. This is your which yr of anniversary? :)

Farah Deen April 03, 2008 12:14 PM

GP,
heheheh ni cut version of the story ker? ya Allah, ramai banget boyfriends yer? hahahahahaha nasib baik your hubby tak kisah, buat nyer dia jealous habis! :) but it's sweet, and actually kan, after having so many boyfriends and you ended up with one and married him, he should realise and know that he's the best among the best! hahahahahah betul tak? :) so, congratulations, GK! :)

insyaAllah happy selalu and insyaAllah dikurniakan cahaya mata besides the cute little catties.

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:14 PM

Hey Naz! Awwww thanks for ur kind words here, I'm glad my love story had a happy ending, one I never thought would happen to me lol! :) Thanks for the song as well, that would make a nice anni gift for us! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:18 PM

Thanks so much Janice! I was late in writing this post, so quickly had to get it out mah he he... this would make our 6th anniversary yay! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 2:21 PM

Of coz must edit a bit Farah he he...the whole story would've been way too long lol! Oh hubby is da best, he knows that my heart belongs to him 100% so all the jealousy is now a thing of the past for us! Thanks for ur lovely wishes here again dearie! :)

Choc Mint Girl April 03, 2008 3:52 PM

Wow! Happy 6th Anniversary, dear!! Thanks for sharing this wonderful post. Actually, I'm going to do a tag about true love and you're in my list hi hi... I'll inform you later. Salute to long lasting love and marriage!!! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 4:12 PM

Hi Crystal, thanks for coming by to wish us here yay! Wow, a new tag and one on love too...looking forward to it, thanks for thinking of me! :)

Zubli Zainordin April 03, 2008 6:42 PM

Love? Earlier, I really do not know it, particularly its definition. When I do, experts say that is not love, that is lust. So, I pursue life without knowing what love actually is. Until, she came flying into my blogging life. She sparks a light of enlightenment within my inner eyes. Thus, it was that moment I discovered Total Love. We enjoyed it, yet for only a moment. She is gone now. Then, *patah tumbuh hilang berganti*, next, the most beautiful walks in grace into my blogging life. The best moment in my life. Still is. Yet, this cannot flow nicely and neat, until the blogging society understands. While we were reclining daily in our garden, there are voices within the surroundings. Some cannot stand it, and proceed to disrupt. As a result, I lost my magical cat, cannot see Dabby anymore, and friends turn foe. I am patience, and continue, every moment enhancing this special love between us. She is now still in a hiding safe. Then, Valentine's Day came, and we are back together, privately, in total love. She dedicated A Total Peace Blog, and shares A Total Love Blog with me. I have begin postings, please come and join us, for Total Peace and Total Love are really magical. Well, this Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca Love Story shall be a hit post there soon. Long Live Love. Total Love to all...

Choc Mint Girl April 03, 2008 6:55 PM

No problem. :) Here's the tag:-

Mariuca April 03, 2008 7:55 PM

Hi Zubli!! I think it sounds like a happy ending for you, yes? May all the evil stuff stay away from you and your new "love" now. I'd be happy to join u at ur Total Love blog :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 7:58 PM

Crystal!! Tak de pun? LOL! You forgot to leave ur tag here woman! I'll come get it from ur blog then. ;)

Zubli Zainordin April 03, 2008 8:18 PM

Dear Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca, you are such a darling. When the blog is up, I shall inform you. Thanks Best Friend Forever. We shall learn to let love blooms for couples who are in it, without the urge to pour water when the heat of love is flaming. Especially those who enforce her or his rules of love upon others who have found the real magic in love. So, allow not each of us to be included in the statistics of love spoilers. Truly, when those who have none, they can be very blunt. Yet, to be able to give and share love in its entirety, we must first understand it, experience it...in total abundance. This I believe. InsyaAllah, as always totally happy beginning and totally happy ending, of my Total Love. Thank you for your touch. I feel the glowing warmth from your heart full of love. Wow!

NafaSg April 03, 2008 9:02 PM

Awww....this post makes us wanna cry....

We'll always pray that u and your B will have a blissful marriage...and that your lives together will be blessed hingga ke anak cucu. Amin...

And Happy Anniversary to the both of u and enjoy yourselves! =)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 9:36 PM

Hola Zubli, no worries and thank you for such a beautiful comment, possibly the best one from you yet! Looking forward to the launching of your new blog, all the best! :)

Mariuca April 03, 2008 9:40 PM

Hey NAFA, thanks for reading and hope u enjoyed our story! Thanks so much for your well wishes here. We had a wonderful anniversary. B came home from Japan a day before our anniversary, just in the nick of time so yay!

Zubli Zainordin April 03, 2008 9:59 PM

We can share total love within and throughout the bloggosphere. I remember on my bersanding day, okay, I admit, I was no longer a virgin, after that. LOL!!! Gee, while sitting there automatically a crafting of the brightest of smiles, I think you have seen the picture of me, walking to the pelamin. Well, my neighbor, a man, non-verbally signaled me to come and meet him. Urgent! I thus responded, later. He urged, now menggamit profusely. Of course, I did not, orang tengah syiok berkawin. When this is done, I met him. I then understooded, while my marriage is formulating, his is a divorce pronounced. Then, he gave me, an advice, err free, the best I have ever had in my total life. He whispered...(Jeng Jeng Jeng) The God willing, more shall I share with you about LOVE. Total!!!

NafaSg April 04, 2008 12:17 AM

That's cool! Mestilah he come back in time for your wedding anniversary. Coz he would love to spend that very special day with u and only u! =)=)=)

Mariuca April 04, 2008 1:46 AM

Ha ha ha orang tengah syok berkahwin it seems, kelakar la Zubli! And then what happened to the man in the end? I think better you story sikit kat blog u! Share ur knowledge on love! :)

Mariuca April 04, 2008 1:48 AM

Thanks Nafa, you are so sweet! Yeah, he arrived home at almost 11pm, an hour away from our anniversary date! With loads of pressies too he he he! :)

Zubli Zainordin April 04, 2008 8:20 AM

I reread your post and I am wondering, did I miss this in the previous 3R TV Show. LOL! It is okay, we can turn this into a Movie. *Just The Two Of Us* is the title. Love Story, yeah!!! Starring Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca. Yes, so that you will appreciate every Valentine's Day, I know you do, yet, as compared to the day you cursed it. I do celebrate all Valentine's Day, since 1945. Well, well, well, I think you must have a great number of BFs, and highlighted only 4. As I started to count mine, I can easily list GF100. More, I tell you, girl. I shall post soon. Senang-senang jer 100 posts dah!!! LOL!!! Okay, I met the Man. Yes, before he left and never to come back again. That day, they pronounced divorced. Me? Baru hari pertama mencicah perkahwinan. Sedap!!! He whispered, "Do you really, really love your wife" He used the word bini. I was caught off-guard. I did not answer him, but he looked into my eyes, and immediately knew. He then said, advice rather, (Translation please, free ye) Dia nasihat, "Bini, macam tulang rusuk yang bengkok. Kalau kamu luruskan, ia patah. Kalau kamu tak peduli, ia bengkok terus. Kamu kena jaga, supaya ia kekal." (Bengkok!) As I have said, that is, the best free advice in my total life. Many a time, I have been asked about love, and loving my spouse. I cannot even defined it, then how to say it? Yet, what you experienced, I do too. Like you are waiting for his call, looking into his eyes, and your hands in his. Yet, when I do it, experts says that is not love, that is lust. So? Okay, after rolling over and over the man's advice, that night...Jeng, Jeng, Jeng...spouse and me, we look into each others eyes, and she whispered...

Choc Mint Girl April 04, 2008 12:35 PM

Ha ha! Salah masuk code la, Marzie!! Err... Click on the date instead he he he... *blush*

Mariuca April 04, 2008 1:19 PM

Hola Zubli! Time time tu of course tak celebrate Valentine's day, tengah makan hati la katakan he he he! So, amacam? Did u take the man's advice? Would love to hear some love tales from Zubli! ;)

Mariuca April 04, 2008 1:20 PM

Ha ha ha, no worries Crystal. I'll come check out the tag after this, have a great weekend! :)

Rozella April 04, 2008 6:23 PM

Awww, so sweet! :) Happy Anniversary Mariuca!

Zubli Zainordin April 04, 2008 6:45 PM

Yes I did, because as a male, I am like a tulang yang lurus. Jika dibiarkan lurus sangat. Kalah bendul. Jika dibengkokkan patah lah yang. Kalau dah patah, macam mana nak menyangkul? Jadi, perlu fleksibelkan supaya tulang keting jadi macam tulang belakang. Thus, 26 years of lasting marriage. 7 kids. So far so good. Awesomely good indeed. Yet, along side I first begin internet surfing searching for a soulmate. You can still read my profile on many Portal mencari jodoh. Still there. Same avatar. Hahahahahaha. Lots of stories, I finally found one now at MyBlogLog. I rest from any searching now. Wow! Almost completing Total Love now in my total life. Oh! Dided I tolded you, my perkahwinan is one day before Ramadhan! Hot, beb!!! LOL! Hotter still is your sambal tumis udang tak ada petai, Hahahahahahaha! Yet, we manage...cleaverly and art skillfully. Yah, Full. Hehehehehehehe.

Mariuca April 04, 2008 9:30 PM

Thanks Rozella, great to see u here again! :)

Mariuca April 04, 2008 9:32 PM

Wow, baru I tahu you have 26 years of marriage and 7 kids to ur name! Thanks for sharing Zubli, dah tak yah cari yang lain dah, settle! :)

Zubli Zainordin April 04, 2008 9:37 PM

You are right, Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca. Settled. No need to find another. Isteri dah ada. Soulmate dah jumpa. Just enjoying Total Love now. Observe your anniversary. Because mine is full of Sambal Tumis Udang Berpetai, and Flowers from a Garden. Satu berbau dan sedap, satu lagi wangi macam your perfume gallery. Wow!

Anonymous,  April 04, 2008 11:21 PM

Hey Marzie. The song is definitely yours (macamlah I punya lagu !! :):)
Have a gr8 weekend.

Naz

Mariuca April 05, 2008 1:39 PM

He he he... pandai-pandai je tambah petai ye? Happy to hear that you have found your soulmate in your isteri Zubli! Happiness always, now and forever! :):):)

Mariuca April 05, 2008 1:41 PM

LOL, thanks Naz! Hope u're having a great weekend yourself! :)

Zubli Zainordin April 06, 2008 10:19 AM

Dear Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca, true total love? I shall note here, for one whom we pledge to live with, totally happy ever after, let no other decides. When I was at her house, there were 3 choices. The eldest looks like an Arab, the second like a Chinese, and the third is like a Bollywood one. Since I am a Chinese, I figure if I choose the Bollywood one, my generation will be skin like coffee latte. LOL!!! I did not know then, that I was given a test, there are many coconuts, many young men, and I was to split the coconut for a khenduri, so I split them, and when the task completed I send them to where the folks are cooking. They observed, and my sincerity doing the split, each is straight and the halves are equal. A definite yes, when my we proposed. So, my spouse and I; we are married, till now, and as it goes, till death do us apart. Yahooo!

Mariuca April 06, 2008 3:46 PM

Zubli!! So you chose the Bollywood one, then ur kids turned out to be cafe latte or not? Janji dapat jumpa soul mate Zubli! Ada life companion to keep you in love forever! Syabas la BFF! :):):)

Zubli Zainordin April 06, 2008 6:43 PM

Ladies and gentlemen of the bloggosphere, when you know DNA and gene fussion, and more, yet I do not, well, all my children turn out Chinese! LOL!!! See their picture at my blog. Well, six more generation, until we see a few Coffee Latte. It is okay, we accept this fact.

Mariuca April 06, 2008 9:52 PM

Wah wah wah kuatnya DNA you Zubli! Oh I must check out your kids photos at your blog, ada ke?? :)

Zubli Zainordin April 07, 2008 8:33 AM

Kat blog lama ada ler, ini baru, hot from the press. Jom, nengok...
http://mail.google.com/mail/?ui=2&view=js&name=js&ids=vsdmtnrembkr
Enjoyz!!!

Zubli Zainordin April 07, 2008 9:23 AM

Dear Genie Princess Mesra Marzie Marvelous Mariuca, your *Our Love Story* highlighted here: http://totalloveblog.blogspot.com/2008/04/our-love-story.html
Enjoyz!!!

Mariuca April 07, 2008 1:20 PM

Hola Zubli! Takde pun gambar kids you? Hot off the press it seems he he.. ;)

Wah...thanks for featuring our love story at A Total Love Blog, you are such a cool BFF! :):):)

Zubli Zainordin April 07, 2008 5:55 PM

O we miss seeing the Chinese family is it. Here it is, still hot from the press. Because I press it myself. Okay here goes girl, http://atotalblog.wordpress.com/2008/04/07/family-2/
Enjoyz!!! Thanks.

Mariuca April 07, 2008 10:30 PM

Thanks Zubli, the link seems to be okay now, see you there! :)

Nessa April 08, 2008 3:00 PM

I enjoyed reading this post. Everything happened for a reason :D B and you are definitely meant for each other. Happy anniversary to you both!

Mariuca April 08, 2008 3:18 PM

Yay, thanks for reading our story Nessa! And for saying we're meant for each other he he! :)

Zubli Zainordin April 09, 2008 11:02 PM

I did my best, yet I guest my best is just wasn't good enough. I am hoping to witness up to 6th more generations before my Zubli's and Intan's change color from Chinese to Malaysian. Genetics! Beyond my control.

Mariuca April 10, 2008 1:21 PM

Ha ha ha, mana blh your Zublis change to M'sian from Chinese, kelakar la u Zubli! Anyway, okay what dapat cafe latte, good la kalau beyond ur control, surprise gitu he he!! :):):)

Zubli Zainordin April 10, 2008 4:25 PM

I now see a way, the children, when it is time, shall choose inter-racial mix marriages. So the putihnizationness mix with hitam manisness, will be coffee latte. Malaysians! Hahahahaha!

Mariuca April 10, 2008 4:40 PM

Zubli! Thanks for making this my 100th comment woo hoo!! Eh, anak u dah kahwin ke? Mcm muda lagi je! ;)

What if they don't wan to mix with hitam manisness and want to stick to putihnizationness? He he he...what ever will u do then Zubli? ;)

Zubli Zainordin April 10, 2008 5:21 PM

100th eh? Congratulations!!! Is Phoebe counting this? Hehehehehehe. Okay, Phoebe, we make it happen on this interesting topic, 101 now. In my family, already married, me and spouse. All else, still studying. Well, we have agreed not to choose or decide on any item in our children's life. All, for example, a course each take, up to them. Soulmate and spouse, up to them. We only give suggestions and wisdom, and up to them to choose. If and when, these putihs stick to putihs also, I have mentioned to you earlier, I shall wait 6 generations to get a karerfu Malaysians. LOL!!!

Mariuca April 10, 2008 10:15 PM

Ha ha ha ha, kelakar la Zubli! Phoebe pun tergelak! I hope ul get ur colorful Malaysians soon. Good to know your kids are doing well with 2 good parents to lead them the right way. :)

Zubli Zainordin April 11, 2008 12:09 PM

Parenting. When we begin to have a child, we decided, Dad shall be Fierce, and Mom shall be nice. It turned out the other way. Hahahahaha! So, all our children, each of them knows, When, ask your Mom, so..."Mom (Ibu), can I...", The answer, "No!". When, ask your Dad, so..."Dad (Abah), can I...", The answer is "Yes!". LOL!!! Family-wise, I am always outside. She is inside. Our deal is all inside decisions, hers, and all outside decisions, mine. Total peace. Corang Menteri Dalam Rumah, corang lagi Menteri Luar Rumah. Hahahahahaha!

Mariuca April 11, 2008 5:01 PM

I Totally understand Zubli. I mean abt she is inside and you outside. And isn't the Dad always the nicer one? Kesian the Mom, she has to be the bad one he he.. :)

Zeff,  April 13, 2008 5:10 PM

Awwwww.. I just came around to reading this post. Such a sweet story like a fairytale come true.

Everyone deserves to be happy Marzie and I hope that you both will live long and prosper, together through thick and thin.

Big hugs to you both

Always
- Zeff -

Mariuca April 13, 2008 6:11 PM

YAY!! Zeffer is here!

Awww thanks Zefny for reading our love story! And thanks for "setting us up" in the first place, he he...if I didn't go that day, for sure tak jumpa Boboy! ;)

We hope u will find your soul mate soon as well. Lotsa love and hugs from us! :):):)

Zubli Zainordin April 18, 2008 10:30 PM

Well, the way we experience this, the children give credit to both. For example, the getting of all A-s in their exams, Mom gets the credit, for her disciplining. When the boys walk the neighborhood, neighbors say, whose boys are these, I wish I have boys like them. Entahlah. So far so good. Maybe they are jesting, but so many a times, they have stood for their parents. We were under attacked once by their uncle, all of them stood, without fear or favor knowing their parents we right. LOL!!! We are bersyukur. All of them are my friends, yes, all 7, I treat them as such.

Mariuca April 19, 2008 12:50 AM

Glad to hear that Zubli, your kids are loyal to their parents, which is good. :)

Zubli Zainordin April 21, 2008 9:10 PM

I much prefer this loyalty goes on another 10 years and beyond. I can then just blog 24 and 7.

Mariuca April 21, 2008 11:21 PM

I'm sure this loyalty has gone above and beyond and will continue to do so. In 10 years time, everyone will be blogging, so ur 24 and 7 wish might just come true! ;)

Zubli Zainordin April 22, 2008 9:04 AM

The next loyalty at 60 (10 years from now) are memory so nice and heart blooming with friendshipness.

Mariuca April 22, 2008 2:42 PM

I hope so too Zubli! Here's to everlasting love and friendship, in Total happiness! ;)

Zubli Zainordin April 22, 2008 8:46 PM

Knowing true love is awesome, yet earlier is better than later. Nevertheless, sharing it with one, is truly meaningful.

Love conquers all day May 16, 2008 3:01 PM

WOW!!
What a lovely love story:)
I too believe on the saying "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be."

I guess those four days were really tough than the previous 6years :)

Mariuca May 16, 2008 4:01 PM

Hola Love conquers all, thanks so much for reading and welcome to Mariuca's blog! :)

And hell yeah!!! You're right...those 4 days was pure torture, waiting and not knowing what happens next lolz! Am glad it all turned out great in the end. :):):)

Love Greetings,  July 12, 2008 4:20 PM

WOW!!
What a GREAT love story:)
You both look really cool :)

Mariuca July 12, 2008 10:14 PM

Hola Love Greetings, thanks so much for reading and welcome to Mariuca's blog! :):):)

Sushi September 02, 2008 2:51 AM

Mama's tearing up.... some tissue for her please! Your love story is sooooo sweet, like a romantic movie with a happy ending. So cute la you two together! Mama identified with the "serial dater" and "despising every loving couple" situations,when she went thru similar stuff most women go thru... but it was happy ending for her too and I am here to prove it! :):)

Mariuca September 02, 2008 2:18 PM

YAY!! Thank you Sushi, for always digging and digging through my older posts, here's a huge doggie treat for u! :)

It's cool to know Mama could identify with the "serial dater" syndrome and what follow after that, it makes me feel better than others have been there and done that too! Thank you for reading Sushi, you're da best! :):):)

Sushi September 09, 2008 11:05 AM

Thanks for my treat GP! One of my favorite jobs is digging, especially knowing I'll find very cool stuff to read and cool pics to look at :):)

Mariuca September 09, 2008 4:24 PM

Yay, welcome Sushi! Here's another treat for u for coming back to this post, and keep on digging okay? Love and hugs! :):):)

Emila Yusof September 27, 2008 9:56 PM

this is one of my favourite post!

Emila Yusof September 28, 2008 1:50 PM

hehe lj, you follow me meh?

Marvic September 29, 2008 2:51 PM

marzie, luckly i found this post...ur love story remind me that true love is always out there and waiting for each of us. I was listening to this Secondhand Serenade - Fall for You while reading your post..sedih giler...

*nak nangis!!!!!

LadyJava September 29, 2008 8:51 PM

Marvic...
Hang in there dearie..he's out there somewhere.. remember you are both looking at the same sky!!

Emila Yusof September 29, 2008 9:15 PM

maria jangan nangis! ala lupakanlah kisah yang silam, k.

marzie, I have so many love stories hehe

Mariuca September 29, 2008 9:15 PM

LOL! LJ and Emila, thanks guys! This is def one of my fave posts too. :)

Emila Yusof September 29, 2008 9:15 PM

i fall easily you know!

Mariuca September 29, 2008 9:17 PM

Marvic! First here's a special HUG for u! :):):)

Thanks for reading sweetie, and yes..no matter what happens, you must always believe in true love. And never give up that one day, it will find its way into your heart and that of your significant other. Until then, keep the memories of love alive in your heart always! Lotsa love and hugs for u Marvic. :):):)

Mariuca September 29, 2008 9:18 PM

Emila, apa kata u write a post on ur many love stories at ur blog??? For sure happening! I want to read!!! :)

LadyJava September 30, 2008 4:11 AM

Wow that would be great post!! Do it lah ladies ;)

webslave,  October 05, 2008 3:14 AM

i like your love story... more power to you both!

i learned something.. and perhaps, i may start believing too in the line: "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be." - just like you..

i also made a promise to my self to be single forever.. but let's just see if our paths would cross again, just like you both..

ciao!

Mariuca October 08, 2008 8:46 AM

Hi Webslave! Thanks so much for reading our love story and it's good to hear you learned something from our tale.

I hope you will get your happy ending as well and hey, never give up on love! If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, so hang in there and keep the hope alive! :):):)

dharlz January 22, 2009 10:12 PM

Your love story made me cry...I am so happy for u dear...

Mariuca,  February 06, 2009 3:10 PM

Hi Dharlz, thank you very much for reading our love story. Sorry it made u cry but I know it's in a good way so YAY! Hugs. :* :*

Anonymous,  February 07, 2009 9:42 AM

i like this excerpt:

"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be."

but that was what happen... i set her free and you know what? she married another man! :(

Faisal Admar,  February 07, 2009 9:43 AM

aik forgot to put my name... i paste again.


i like this excerpt:

"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be."

but that was what happen... i set her free and you know what? she married another man!

Mariuca,  February 07, 2009 7:43 PM

Faisal, you came! Thanks for reading our love story. I never believed in that phrase until it happened to me. Always must have faith that things happen for a reason and if it’s meant to be, it will be yours. Otherwise, like in your case, this is not your right moment yet. Your true love will definitely find her way to your heart, it’s just a matter of time. Keep the faith alive and patience! Hugs. :)

Ane,  July 26, 2010 7:37 PM

You know Marzie, I have never been able to finish that post about B and I.. :)

Ane,  July 26, 2010 7:38 PM

Wow, your love story is something.. :)

Mariuca,  July 26, 2010 7:49 PM

I would love to read ur love story with ur B too Ane! :* :* :* :*

Mariuca,  July 26, 2010 7:49 PM

I think so too and I feel blessed and lucky to be fortunate enough to be reunited with the love of my life... :* :* :* :*

Bella Enveeus,  July 26, 2010 7:55 PM

awww.. so sweet.. how nice to have found love again..

Bella Enveeus,  July 26, 2010 7:57 PM

total 5 bf only? wahhhh.. :-D have u ever come around to ask y he went back to his ex? hehehe.. but sweet love story, just wonderful.. semoga berkekalan ke akhir hayat.. :-)

Mariuca,  August 15, 2010 5:04 PM

Ha ha 5 worth mentioning la Bella, takkan nak citer semua kat sini if ya know what I mean LOL!!!

Mariuca,  August 15, 2010 5:05 PM

Thanks for reading our love story Bella, I hope u will find ur happy ending soon too, hugs! :)

foongpc,  September 07, 2010 2:02 AM

Wow! Your story can turn into a novel and maybe a movie! Haha!!

Monica,  September 07, 2010 2:06 AM

i think i read this before Mariuca....and now i'm reading it again! :* :* :* :*

Monica,  September 07, 2010 2:09 AM

so sweet..... i'm melting!! ;) ;) :-D :-D :* :*

Bill,  September 07, 2010 2:16 AM

I just read the whole article here and it so romantic. I am very glad to find that you found your special someone and you opened your heart again. You deserve it my special Virgo buddy :*

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